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How Would You Take It If A Guy Says He Whats To Continue Dating You But Not Want The Emotional Part?
or feel obligated in any way? After dating for 4 months.
I take it as him wanted a casual dating and/ or even an open relationship. I ask him if he wants to be just friends, and he said yes then no after I told him that I don’t sleep with or go out one on one with male friends.
After him saying those things, I also feel that I can date others, would I be wrong for that?
Thank you in advance!
February 8th, 2010 at 6:51 am
no not at all get a guy that cares and not a loser like this one
sounds like a worthless loser that only wants one thing
dump him and get someone that is well deserving
February 8th, 2010 at 10:16 am
Not wanting the emotional Part you would hope that it’s because of a new found spiritual relationship. Or an old spiritual relationship he is now feeling guilty for abandoning. Second if that’s not it then maybe it’s a type of sickness like diabetes that may be causing him Intimate problems he doesn’t want to discuss just yet. Third is if he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings but wants to see other people and hold on to you.
February 8th, 2010 at 2:34 pm
He wants to date you, but he doesnt want any emotions involved. He is saying that he wants to have a good time with you. He wants to have a sexual relationship, and that’s it. He wants to go out with you sometimes, and then he wants to be able to go out with whomever he chooses. Great for him, not great for you. Women have a tendency to get attached to guys that they sleep with. You will probably get hurt. So, if you want to see him, go ahead, but know that he warned you in the beginning about his desires for no real relationship. I would be friends with him, and not sleep with him. Kick him into the friend bin. When a guy tells us how they are, we think we can change them. We cant. They have to want to have a one on one relationship. Then we sit and cry and say that he hurt us, when he really only hurt us because we let him. Dont accept something that you dont want, and dont accept less than you want in a relationship.
February 8th, 2010 at 8:13 pm
All he wants to do is F–k you when he pleases. He basically admitted that to you when he said he wanted to be more than friends after you told him you don’t sleep with your “just friends”. All he’s looking for is a booty call.
If he doesn’t want the commitment with you then you have every right to go out and date other guys while you are still seeing him. So have some fun.
February 8th, 2010 at 10:17 pm
Talk to him about boundaries. Open relationships typically don’t work out because it is hard for people to get over that jealous factor again. If you are both sexually active he may just want to sleep with you and hang out when it is convenient for him, but then go out and party single when he is with his friends. If i were you I would have more respect for myself, and say, if he doesn’t want me to be his full girlfriend then he is not worth my time. But do what makes YOU happy. Talk to him about what would make him uncomfortable or angry and see if it would make you happy. Don’t let him tell you what you can or cant do and then he does his own thing. Respect yourself, i would just leave him and stay single but thats just me. And no if he does not want to be labeled you are not tech. his girlfriend so do your thing! Live life your young! good luck
February 8th, 2010 at 11:51 pm
He just wanted in your pants sorry. Up your standards. Your asking if you can date others, girl take control of your life, you deserve someone who only wants you. You slept with a guy way way way too soon. Command respect by holding out, its not a game its your self worth, and your worth more than your letting a guy treat you.
February 9th, 2010 at 12:43 am
known as the booty call.
delete him from all your files and phones.
women have fought hard to earn women respect and honor.
respect yourself, and please use protection so you don’t get something in the future.
wait for marriage, it’s worth it.
February 9th, 2010 at 3:03 am
Your not tied to him,no….The question is do you want to be part of his part time fling or friend with benefits or do you want a real relatioship with a guy,if you do I would look for another….Good Luck…
February 9th, 2010 at 8:13 am
move on girl. his not yet ready for that serious thing. there are many guys out there that can treat you more like the way you treat him
February 9th, 2010 at 2:31 pm
slap him
go find a better guy, coz this ones gonna turn old..loose all his hair by 30, gain a beer belly and watch bold and the beautiful reruns all his life.
February 9th, 2010 at 8:08 pm
hunny he just wants ***
bottom line
don’t do it dont’ let him trap you. go out with other guys who will want you for all of you including your emotional side
February 9th, 2010 at 9:45 pm
no jus cheat on him it’s better to have two than one OBVIOUSLY (he’s probably already cheating on YOU)
February 9th, 2010 at 10:15 pm
To be blunt he just wants to F*** you!
February 10th, 2010 at 3:26 am
SEX is ALL he wants without the relationship! MOVE ON GIRL!
February 10th, 2010 at 5:19 am
Uh…Thats guy talk for he wants to still get some, but he wants to be free to walk away at any time…
Translation-not serious about you but wants sex…
February 10th, 2010 at 7:34 am
maybe if he sees you with someone else he will he will realize that he does not want to loose you
February 10th, 2010 at 11:34 am
It is a dog-eat-dog world outside. Be careful what you do and listen to your brain rather than your heart!
February 10th, 2010 at 3:12 pm
girl just find another bloke ! seriously, sounds like he just wants to get his leg over
February 10th, 2010 at 4:41 pm
no i think u r not wrong cause u r just friends ok.
February 10th, 2010 at 6:42 pm
If u like him date him …he likes you too no guy ask friendship to a girl they all want result ltr ….mmmh go girl!!
February 10th, 2010 at 8:34 pm
Actually I was in exactly the same situation.
and dated him exactly the same amount of time as you.
He said that he didn’t want to be in anything serious, and i asked him the exact same question, and wanted to know if he just wanted to be friends with me.
He said no, and that he wanted it to work.
but then there was this one day, he tried asking me for sex but i said no, because i don’t want to get involved with a guy who is not gonna commit into a serious relationship with me, because afterwards he might just break up with me, you never know.
Then he just said that he doesnt really know how its all going to work out.
I told him that, it’s either all or nothing.
I guess all he really wanted was just the sex.
But then he was being all sweet to me and **** and getting me emotionally really deep into it. then the next day he came up to me and told me that he was probably moving, and told me that he doesnt really want to get involved.
then flirts with all the other girls around me.
which pissed me off and made me cry the whole day, i was just stressed out.
thenn.
he was talking to a couple of his friends and said “the reasons why i don’t really want to be officially dating her is because she is unattractive, flat chested, and fat”
then again the next day he was being really really sweet.
I just broke it off with him, it wasn’t worth my time cuz i could do way better, i don’t date superficial guys, and he simply just didn’t deserve me.
I have confidence in myself, and i won’t be put down by some *** hole who get F’s for every subject and smokes weed.
I think that you have all the rights to be dating other guys,
because if you are looking for something special, then you should go find it.
If he isn’t sure about it. then chances are that the relationship isn’t gonna last that long, because if a guy really really likes you, he wouldn’t have to even be thinking weather to say yes or no.
I reckon he probably is just in it for the sex,
but then again, i don’t know this guy in person.
and judging by what you wrote, that’s the impression that i’m getting.
Well i’ve learned my lesson, it was a painful one but. ehh.. what can you do about it right?
anyways. hope you make the right decision.
Good luck.
=] xx